Apr 042014
 

 

…But being outed by my Mother ain’t one.

I’ve always wondered what being outed was going to be like. I live in a small town. I felt like it was only a matter of time. Someone who knew me, who was also kinky, was going to find me on Fetlife. They’d stare, open-mouthed, at my profile, and then decide to crawl back into their kinkster hole. I was fine with that. The only reason you’re on a kink site is because you’re kinky, right?   … I ran out of fucks for those people a long time ago.

In my vanilla circles – There are numerous people that would guess that I’m kink-friendly. There are very few people, a close circle, who know the level of BDSM that I participate in. This circle knows that I’m a sex blogger. No one has ever asked for my moniker, so I’ve never given it up.

In my kink circles – I lead my local kink group. Everyone I meet through that process knows me on Fetlife. I give out my handle at cons. I’ve met some of my closest friends in my kink circles. They know me by my first, middle, and last names. They know more about how I feel than most of my family does. I can be myself with them.

How was I outed? I blame Facebook and my Mother. I’m serious. Those fuckers.

Facebook has that feature where it asks you if you know this person or that person. I had a family account, when I was still trying to pretend that I had a family. I’m figuring that maybe my profile either popped up or my nosy Mother was signed into my sister’s account when she tried to friend The Sin Doll on Twitter.

When I found out that my family knew, I was advised by another sex blogger of my choices. It basically came down to; The Sin Doll could vanish. Or I could say, “Fuck it.” Every picture, every thought, and every story tumbled in my head. I’d like to say the decision was easy, but the tumbling was like rocks.

Through conversation and realization, I now know what I do isn’t going to change any relationship I have with anyone I care about. I don’t know who it will even surprise. And I don’t like the alternative. I don’t want to disappear. I’ve been here for four years. It’s going to take more than some low-down fuckery to do away with The Sin Doll.

I come from a very church-oriented family. Good Baptist people. The kind that are in the pews every time the doors are open. Sunday morning, Sunday night, and Wednesday evenings. They pay their tithes, but on Tuesday-Saturday they gossip, drink their beer, jack off to porn, beat their kids, and even use fake internet names to spy on their family.

So, Mom

Enjoy the reading.

Y’all will have a ton to talk about come Sunday.

~The Sin Doll

 

I’ve got to thank @Mollysdailykiss and @DomSigns for taking the time with me during “damage control,” and also helping me to process my feelings during all this. Y’all rock.

 

elust

  52 Responses to “I’ve Got 99 Problems…”

  1. Brilliant! Quite simple just brilliant!

    Mollyxxx

  2. Damn girl I feel sorry for you but I am glad you are not going to let people push you away. That is what people get for being so damn nosy. I myself get scared too especially with my camming I do but hey if you snoop I hope you see something you don’t like and don’t tell me about it because I will say tough shit, you should have not been nosy in the first place. I am a grown women. Half the people know I review toys and some know that I cam. I may not tell them it is on the adult side and say I do friends more but I could care less. No one supports my family but me.

  3. Small town girl myself, you should have heard the uproar when my mother found out my husband and I were in an open marriage. I am surprised rapture did not occur right there. The rat?? My own sister who lost her job as a license examiner due to a video of her engaging in sex with a minor, only her son’s best friend, as well as other videos with her spouse and a few other extras. But ya know I am a whore. Been there, done that, still standing, still married, unlike my rat, cared for my mother the last 5 years of her life who realized when push came to shove I was the only one she could count on.. Karma is a bitch darling and sometimes you get to see it bite them..

    • I can’t imagine what you went through. People hear the word “family” and instantly think of a strong, loving bond. That’s not always the case. Sometimes being related to another person just gives them an inside on poisoning the well.

      I still feel like the worst is yet to come. Yanno, waiting for the other shoe to drop? *shrugs* The one’s who will judge me already have been, and on far less offences than this. Let them come.

  4. This post is hard hitting. I can so relate. And I feel for you. I fear the day this happens to me. Well I only fear that work or a past fuck buddy stumbles on my site. I deactivated my family Facebook when my mother started sharing my photos with my former co-workers. Wtf!? Yup. She was sharing my shit with ppl who left me out to dry. So I deleted my acct. some family deleted me, mostly it took months before anyone noticed then they wanted answers. Fuck that! I thought about starting over but I’m always gonna be SassyCat. I like my efriends better than my family. I’m glad you are still here & strong. Glad that Molly & DomSigns were there for you and you weren’t alone.

    • Thank you. I’m glad some of y’all have shared your experiences with me. It’s helped me to feel not so alone in all of this. I appreciate it more than you know. :)

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