Feb 072014
 

A checklist is extremely helpful to anyone involved in the BDSM community, especially those new to it. It’s simply a list of fetishes that you may or may not find interesting. With a good checklist, you can choose activities that you’ve tried and how much you liked or disliked an activity, usually based on a numeric scale. You can also rate each one as hard limits or soft limits.

You can exchange checklists with a potential play partner so that they have all of your desired play information. It’s a helpful way to kick off negotiations before you begin a scene.

The more you play and grow in the lifestyle, you may develop different feelings about what you’ve chosen on your checklist. Feel free to update it! The best checklist that I’ve found is at CEPE. It’s very thorough. You can download it. You can print it.

Feel free with the Q&A!

Sep 072013
 

I have a confession to make. There are sand dunes in my submission brain. I’m craving for a shot of D-type.  I believe I’m going through some kind of submission withdrawals. I’ve not even let myself mentally release the last few times that I’ve played.

I’m topping in my local group, due to a serious lack of education.  That’s not what I want to do. I’m a sadist. I’m not a D-type. It’s got my filter all off kilter.  My writing has become darker. It’s less about logical BDSM relationships and more about the scarier side of life in general. You haven’t seen what sits, waiting to be worked on, and their levels of boundary-crossing afflictions.

I wonder if this is what happens when a submissive starts to dry up.

Jun 162013
 

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May 232013
 

He was parked across the street for thirty minutes. For as long as I’ve been doing this, I’m going to take a guess that he was early and she was late.

A mood, this one was; a stumble and a cuss; a grin and a flush.

They sat in the back. Voices traveled a bit. She was naturally loud. He said “No,” a lot.

I laughed at her. Good heels and nice nails weren’t getting her very far with this guy. At some point, I don’t think she had sweet smile left in her.

When I thought she was going to give in and order a drink in, I’m guessing he shot that down too. My happy hour was starting to straggle in, presented with their liquid gold without need of request. After about an hour, I glanced up and they were leaving. He gave me an easy smile and a wave. It was her, though. She looked like she’d been through the wringer. Mascara smeared with a blinded effort to keep it in it’s carefully applied position, her hair had lost it’s bounce and there was none of the blow-job red that had curled with the trace of her lips.

But she was smiling.

 

May 202013
 

He came to the door. His knock is not the same.

And the horses are off.

In. Shut. Lock. Bed. Arm. Pin.

“You know how I found you? I followed your scent. I know every bit of you. It’s because I own every bit of you. You’re mine. Mine to do with. Mine. Can you understand that? Can you? I want to make sure. .. I need you to understand. Mine.”

He wasn’t sure what helped pave the way for his release, the freedom to speak to her that way, or the look on her face when he did. Her body language made his cock jump. And he knew; he should have done this the first time his wife asked him.

May 172013
 

 

 

Hi,

I know you’re new so I’m going to be blunt  from the start. Don’t send those same emails out to chicks in town and hope to get a bite from a few.

If you’re just looking to fuck, go ahead. Because your  your approach comes off straight-up AOL Chatroom, A/S/L and everything. Then again, some  girls are  looking for that, too.

If you’re really trying to learn about BDSM, if you’ve got some fetishes that you’re into, and you want to talk about them with other kinky people; you’ve found the right place.

One more thing, do us all a favor and if you really are just wanting to get laid, make it known. If  you talk  to a someone, and you see that they do want to learn and need some guidance, point her this way.

Please …just don’t fuck her up.

May 142013
 

Saturday night will be the last night that I’ll see two of of my most beloved friends in my local BDSM group. I’ve made and lost friends from this circle before, but I was never this sad. I was never, ever this sad.

B is a gay male dominant. I’ve been working with him on hitty stuff. Some rope. Our rope relationship is notorious, but the last time he did a cuff tie on me, he gave a snatch and an eyeball and – I saw a  flash of dom. He came out to play. Since then, our group became more serious with scenes. He and I were becoming a nice little co-topping team.

C is B’s gay submissive. He doesn’t like impact play. He does great in rope and wax, though. He was aftercare for everyone. Even when you didn’t notice it. That’s probably the most important job ….ever.

They’re going to the other side of the country for B’s job. They’ll be back in seven months. But part of me hopes they stay? Parts of me hopes they find something better and more fulfilling where they’re going. I hope they learn while they’re there. I hope they love it.

I’m gonna hate it.

Apr 262013
 

New OrleansHe came in late. She was down to her natural look. Some girls did it like that. Not her. This was a once in a blue moon thing. Things were tight. She needed the cash. So she took him.

He seemed very pleased when he entered, which always confused her. She ain’t even have on no make-up or nothen’.

He seated himself in the only chair in the room, positioned purposefully in a dark corner. “Please forgive my late calling. It’s because of that, I’ve brought you a gift.” A gift!

That poor baby’s face lifted with the slyness of his grin. Out she pulled the leather collar. He moved quickly over her, “Here, let me help you with that.”